James is an internationally recognized and respected thought leader, coach, and teacher. He’s the developer of the critically acclaimed “Hypnosis Without Trance” approach to hypnosis which was my first introduction to his work.
We’ll learn why James doesn’t have a mission or purpose and what he does instead to organize his efforts. We’ll hear about the principles, maps, and models he uses to navigate life’s challenges. We’ll also discover what skillset James considers vital to being effective in dealing with others and oneself. This and more in today’s episode.
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Books* mentioned in the show:
The Discerning Heart: The Developmental Psychology of Robert Kegan (Philip M. Lewis)
The Black Swan: The Impact of the Highly Improbable (Nassim Nicholas Taleb)
5:08 Korey asks, “Do you have a purpose?”
8:09 An interesting word: nexialist.
9:54 Korey asks, “Do you think we have an inbuilt nature?”
13:04 Being raised as “you are what you are” and the consequences of that fixed mindset.
15:56 Korey asks, “Do you have maps and models that you use to guide your choices?”
17:45 An example of living with the model of “avoiding conformity” as a model.
20:03 How to think about your worldview (the wisdom of Stoicism)
24:06 Blindspots and how to become aware of them with “speculative semantic modelling.”
27:43 Why modelling is so powerful.
29:33 Why coaching is so valuable and a clarifying definition of coaching
31:34 Why coaching isn’t for everyone: the truth trap.
34:16 Robert Kegan’s theory of adult development
38:28 Thinking of your changing life circumstances as a different game
39:14 The idea that you can believe anything you choose to believe
42:14 The functionality of a belief or a metaphor
44:40 Is a metaphor true or false?
47:24 Ideas are tools to work with the way things are
49:20 Exploring life by changing perspectives is like changing glasses
53:00 The consequences of rigid thinking
55:27 It’s not about balance; it’s about a dynamic interplay of opposing forces
58:08 Some deep philosophy
1:00:09 Korey asks, “Do you have a skillset that you consider vital in all your roles?”
1:03:37 What James does mostly is based on this
1:04:26 The problem with the question, “How do I do that?”
1:05:55 The challenge in coaching for a change in perspective
1:06:54 An example using the difference between Brazilian Jiu Jitsu and Judo
1:09:01 The example continues using direct and indirect hypnosis
1:11:04 James’s lack of sleep is becoming a factor
1:11:52 What James considers himself…and it’s not coach
1:13:54 The Be – Do – Have model and the source of your problems
1:16:03 What you need in order to do something
1:17:28 How to upgrade your ability to do
1:19:36 What people who get things done are doing differently
1:21:10 The world is dynamic and what that means for you
1:22:57 I introduce James to my conception of the difference between a “Thinking Choice” and “Enacted Choice”
1:24:34 What makes a choice “real”
1:26:08 Korey asks, “Do you have a time management system?” The surprising answer.
1:26:32 The difference between “generativity” and “productivity”
1:28:27 Organizing by time vs organizing by task
1:29:30 James uses the opposite of a To-Do list
1:32:20 How James rewards himself for sticking to his plan
1:33:27 What happens 99 times out of 100 as a result of organizing by time
1:34:48 Korey asks, “How do you deal with your own mistakes and failures?”
1:35:53 James relaying the advice of Nassim Nicholas Taleb (from the book The Black Swan)
1:36:46 Advice from improvisational theatre
1:38:39 What to do when you drift off your path
1:40:58 The deal James makes with his clients
1:41:33 Korey asks, “What is your health and fitness routine?”
1:43:24 What’s going on in James’s mind, right now, during this current pandemic lockdown?
1:44:17 The ad-hoc exercise James uses as needed
1:44:55 What James would do to change his fitness routines
1:46:20 The impact of having the right environment and system in place
1:49:12 A change in environment requires a new approach
1:50:38 All James wants for a good workout
1:52:55 Doing squats Russian Systema-style and why to do that
1:54:32 Korey clumsily uses ‘appreciate’ 6 times and ‘unique’ three times in less than 3 minutes for a strong finish 😆
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